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I am a lot of things - I am limited edition, not weird :) . A Christ Lover and a fashion lover. I love crime and comedy shows (or movies) .. and I always move on no matter what :)

Sunday, May 1, 2016

Why We Serve

Have you ever been in any kind of relationship where it felt like the other person mostly did nice things for you because of what they got in return? How did that make you feel ? For some reason, I often find myself in situations where I am being used. Whenever I realize a friendship is not genuine and for selfish reasons, it hurts. Glad that I never wait with keeping such friendships - I just remove myself from the situation. "to the left, to the left " * in Beyonce's voice lol. I won't say I am not guilty of it either.

I grew up in a culture where people believe that the more you serve, the more you do things in church or other religious communities, the more your prayers will be answered. From observation, I find that people really believe that if they soak themselves in church activities, fast for the whole month, and so on, God will definitely give them what they want. So, if the answer to your request is no, does it mean that God isn't true or does it mean that he is not good? There is nothing wrong with serving, and soaking oneself; however, the question we must ask ourselves is the intent of what we are doing:

- Is it to get "favors" and to be on the "good side"? Is it to earn righteousness points? 
- Is it to keep up with a status and the way we are being perceived by others?
- Is it because we love God? Because we love him enough to do things because of him and we want to obey him? 

Whatever we do in the name of God, expecting the glory back to ourselves is not done to glorify him and is not done because we love him. Selfish serving means we are doing these things mainly because of what we will get, be it respect, popularity or favors.

Remember how you felt when you realized your "friend" was using you?

It is so true that the greatest commandment is love (Matthew 22: 37 - 40) When you love someone, whether or not you get something in return, you want to see them smile, you want to do nice things for them just because. I try to apply this with my relationship with God. I am still a work in progress but it is getting better.

We do not have to be legalistic about things. If what you are doing is because God asked you to and you are obeying, or because you want to be a helping hand, great! But if you are doing whatever you do because of what people will say about you or because you believe that when God sees all you do, he will let you have your way or you will earn righteousness points  (read Isaiah 64:6), think again. 

Yes, there are people who keep giving so much because they have a heart of love, and God turns around to bless them - cups running over. I do not believe these people did things because of what they expected. I believe God saw their hearts, looked at them and added all other things.

Some people make these activities their number one priority and suffer the relationship with their children and / spouses. People are growing dysfunctional families and not showing love even in their homes; the home is where we should all serve first. The excuse is usually " putting God first"... Hmm is that really true? The family should NEVER be neglected! 

As Christians, we should seek the kingdom of God first (Matthew 6:33). To me, this means that we should be faithful in our service to him and return all the glory to him. It says further that all other things will be added - to me, this means that he got my back and no matter the situation, I should just trust him. That is enough for me. The older grow in my faith, and with life sometimes not making any sense, I find this word more true and important. Trusting him is another way we can find grace to obey.

Again, we should be intentional when we serve, and we all should do things for other reasons bigger than self. We may want to take a step back and think again

Abi Tobi.

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