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I am a lot of things - I am limited edition, not weird :) . A Christ Lover and a fashion lover. I love crime and comedy shows (or movies) .. and I always move on no matter what :)

Friday, April 19, 2013

The Big Chop!

So I stood in front of the mirror and I couldn't take the irregularities and ugliness anymore, I could not believe that letting it out for only one week, letting myself see it's true nature and what it had become would result to this. I guess I have been in denial? or was I just blind? Extensions had made it soo easy for me, and yes it was growing, beautifully too (so I thought) no, not beautifully, just growing somehow. Texturizers had weakened her, taken her full beauty, her beautiful nature. It wasn't time for it. Texturizing had come too soon, she needed some growth first, some life first. she needed to find her own strength first. First, before any other thing.

and in that instance, I blocked out what anyone would say or think, I blocked out negation. She needed a new start and I was going to give it to her.

That instance I took a pair of scissors and cut it all off...the uneven awkward looking strands.. and the feeling was PRICELESS.. very very priceless... but it's just hair.............


But you know, it's more than that. Our lives sometimes need trimming, we need to look into the mirror and cut things out. Let go of  all the ugliness and irregularities. We need a TRUE check of our lives to understand our situations and re-evaluate and adjust when and where needed.

Sometimes, we are scared of what people might say or  how they might react to our decisions, we are scared of how we might  "look" and we allow ourselves ignore the importance of  re-construction. There might be people you need to cut off or let go. All the people who bring you negative energy, or maybe those who influence you wrongly. It might even be as simple as a TV show that makes you crawl into your skin and brings back hurtful memories, or a job that brings you absolutely no peace.
You need trimming and you have to let it go! chop it off..

Yes, at some stages we need THE BIG CHOP! 

Maybe you need to change your city, cut off those people, go back to school, get a new job, move out of your parents house, get out of that relationship, make peace, be firm.  Whatever you need for a fresh new start, confess it and work towards it (more actions than talking). Sometimes, you need some growth first before getting to the next level. YOU need to allow that growth! It is time to make bold and reconstructive decisions for YOURSELF irrespective of what anyone thinks of it. It's your life and you have to take it by the hand without fear and enjoy the ride ......

Enjoy your weekend. xx
Lots of Love,
Abi Sanni

Btw, enjoy the song :D



  1. Oh wow. You're making a lot of sense. I've had to do some form of 'the big chop' although it can be hard particularly when you've allowed yourself to believe in some psuedo way that the thing/person is relevant.

    I've actually never thought about life in relation to hair. I didn't do a sudden big chop with my hair. I transitioned & eventually chopped it. I think I do same with other areas of my life :)

    P.S: To think I nearly missed this update. Been wondering where you disappeared off to

  2. At this moment I'm doing a lot of Big Chops. Not easy! Inspiring writeup babe n thanks for checking up on me

    1. Yes Abi, it's good to do the necessary big chop sometimes in life. Some things really need to GO.
      Thank you.

  3. @Beauty awwww thank u!

    @toin heeey! glad u came by, :D thank u for checking up on me, I am here oh

    @Sisi Yemmie, yay! u came by too
    yes, it's sometimes hard but important

    @Eya, I tell u, somethings should go to the left, out, away . Thanks for ur comment :)

  4. Did you really BC?? Wether you did or not, great post!

  5. I totally feel this post!Just cut my hair too!Btw, there is a giveaway on my blog.Feel free to check it out.