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Calgary, Alberta, Canada
I am a lot of things - I am limited edition, not weird :) . A Christ Lover and a fashion lover. I love crime and comedy shows (or movies) .. and I always move on no matter what :)

Saturday, July 30, 2011

Live it Loud

Hello Blog-lovers!! How are you all doing>??? I know I have been away for a while.. well, I have a busy life plus am lazy too lol.

If you follow me on twitter, or a friend on face book, or my friend in real life you are prolly tired of hearing about  the "Live It Loud" conference. It's a Redeemed young adults conference in Canada, and it runs for 4 days; young adults from various parts of Canada come together and bla bla... we learn, we have fun and we make new friends :D

So this year, it was absolutely wonderful. I danced like never before... met wonderful people and learnt a lot.. I also want a message bible (excuse you! I accept Summer gifts lol)...  Was soo good I din't feel like leaving I wish it ran for a few more days so but we all have lives outside of the program right?  *Sigh*



So here is to sharing a few things I learn't


  • Before you say "I DO" make sure you know what your primary responsibility will be in life. Apart from God, your new responsibility is to make sure (ENSURE) your partner is happy. Make sure you are ready to do anything right in your power to make them happy, grow and so on.. it's no longer about you it's about him or her. Now that's where I found the real definition of love. So, you want to make sure that he or she will do same for you. That he/she wants to ensure your happiness, growth, and that you are his/her primary responsibility (after God)

  • Never base your relationship with God on others' own relationship with him. Don't get me wrong, it's good to have a mentor, but at the same time you do not know what people do behind closed doors. The heart of man is very wicked and we need to be careful. When communicating with him use your own examples... like say "you healed me of headache, this is not too much for you." Don't say because your mentor decided to go "natural" you want to as well... lol., you are own your own o because when the "guys" stop coming err she won't help you o. Whatever you do let it be because of your relationship with God; between you and him not because of what other people are doing

  • Learn to forgive yourself, just soo you can move on. Sometimes, we just want to hit ourselves in the head because we messed up and we can't let go of it. Well, such is life, we all make mistakes.

  • Sometimes, because we do not forgive ourselves we  forget that God has forgiven us

  • Sometimes, God doesn't give us answers because we sorta kinda already know what he thinks of what we are doing. Like you know what I mean? Sometimes, he wants us to think about it and find an answer... 

  • There is sooo much talent within Nigerian Christian young adults in Canada. You have no idea how much. I was amazed
  • I had a wonderful time again :D 

                PLEASE PLEASE!! if  we know each other in real life. Do Not answer! :p Which one is me?????




Wednesday, July 20, 2011

Reality

Close your eyes
for a moment or two
Travel far away
Away from reality
to YOUR perfect world
That one that has all your dreams
Keep smiling.

Open your eyes
It's the real world
Reality won't always be your dreams
Truths don't lie
and reality never does...

Sometimes,
We are lost in our dreams;
we dine, eat, and live in them
because reality is pain
too painful to bare...

... But it's real
we have to deal
Find a way out
out to where our dreams are
Or even something better...

with love,
Abi Tobi
xx

Thursday, July 7, 2011

Break-Ups

I hate watching my friends go through break-ups and it's funny how people somehow expect me to know what to say in certain situations when I really have no idea of what to say... First, because we are all different.. Second, because I don't wanna give the wrong advice... But here is my take on it.

well .... I have learn't that when people want to go, just let them go... see  there's no point holding on to someone who won't hold on to you. Almost everything to me is an investment, why would I keep investing in someone who would negate my returns??  ....So when my friend comes to me and says his/her lover wants to leave I tell them to let them go, I might be wrong but.. 

I sometimes feel like I have lost all the words... just as if I can't reach them or all d alphabets disappeared. I hate the tears... I just go ahead and give a hug because well.. I dunno.. I just want them to stop hurting...  

And I hate the "What's wrong with me?"  all I wanna do at this point is bitch slap them to wake up and remind them of how fab their life was... like we all had a life before someone walked in.. Some people will come in, you will love them, and they might hurt you... doesn't mean life has to stop....

And I hate the "I will never Love again"... arrggh!! really?? because you met one or two jerks doesn't make the rest of the people in the world jerks...  There are good men and women out there --they might be few but they are there... You might just have to kiss a number of frogs before you get to your Prince Charming or Cinderella. 

What I do is advice them to let go... if someone says they want to leave (when you know it's not your fault, and you feel like you are holding on too tight) let  him/her go.... The person probably isn't meant for you. .... If they are, they will come back. 

and then GO OUT!... 
Like take care of yourself, LOOK GOOD and SMILE, and have a good time.... it's hard for feelings to die, but when your ex isn't thinking about you no more, honey, you have to TRY to stop thinking about him/her (intimately) ... So, try to drag yourself out of your bed, go out to parties, or get-togethers, movies,  even girls' night outs ... am not suggesting meeting someone else immediately but you might need something to take your mind off it...

Break-ups hurt and they sometimes hurt really really bad (which sucks!) ... and I believe the first time is usually the most painful... I can't tell my own story on blogsville lol I was a lil' younger then but I learnt a lot from it, and I am somehow grateful it happened lol .... 

What other advice/what other ways do you use to help a friend going through a break-up, or how are you there for them? I find it hard to call and ask about it, I just talk about other things because I don't want them hurting from my "reminding" them.

Recap-
IF you are going through a Break up
- Let the person go
- Look good 
- Please no depressing expressions (SMILE)
- Other people don't have to pay for what (s)he did.. but your experience should make you wiser in your decisions and choices
- Life Moves on
-  A HUG FOR YOU from me (lol)
-  Smile :) 


 xx
With Love,
Abi Tobi 

btw, this guy shares most of views.. he talks really fast and I love it lol ... enjoy



Tuesday, July 5, 2011

whatever You make it

Hey all! How is summer going?

Am pretty well, summer is very summer-ish.... EXCEPT for the mosquitoes in this city, o my gosh! they have finished me and am not even that fair but  I see pink all over  ughh!  Anyways, it's one of the very SERIOUS things that bother me :p

I was going through my facebook notes and I came across this note, I named it "Whatever you make it" ... I had posted it earlier today and then I deleted it .... but some people said they like it so I decided to re-post... I wrote in November last year..

Enjoy :)

"As I sat on my chair today, with a sip of drink, flow of thoughts run through my mind. My heart began to wonder; not balanced, not in place. I think of man. I think of other kinds of men. I look around me; I look around; I look into the heart of man through his eyes.

In some, I see joy and life. I see hope and a bright new day. I see them leaving their past, and moving on with a hope for tommorow.

 In others, I see agony and pain. I see deppression and darkness. I see lack of faith and hopelessness, i see tears and heart break. I see holding back and stagnancy. I see darkness and an empty heart.

And in some others what seems really dark and cloudy. With situations that tell them to give up, to stop breathing. But they don't give up! they walk heads and shoulders high like the breeze is fresh and relaxing.

And I look around me again, and see little children. A tender heart they have with forgiveness and genuine love.. With fear in their eyes but with belief that they can climb that mountain...

And in crawling babies; I see determination for they fall a thousand times but get up and never stop trying.

And I see life: as what you make of it
The ability to do wrong, learn your lessons and move on
To forgive yourself as well as others
To get up everytime you fall... to have a drive
To love; to love genuinely....."

Not Somebody Else

Sometimes,
I wish words would explain
I wish words were enough
It's all the words that are unborn

I find myself in all directions
Like a confused little child
and even when I ask
I get unknown answers

Sometimes,
I wish I could fly as high
Faar above the clouds
I might need a little push

Sometimes,
I close my eyes
and take a trip away from reality
at those times,
my dreams lift my mood
They take me away from .... 

Sometimes,
I pretend I feel no hurts
I love it when I act so well

And when I want to get crazy,
I wish nothing ever holds me back
Even though I need my head in check

Sometimes,
I want to let myself go
But I find that I hold back
At other times,
My name is spontaneous

Sometimes,
I want a perfect world
But I remind myself
that boredom might eat me up
Challenges need work

At all times,
I want to be myself
Maybe with little changes,
and maturity
that will make me better
But never to be somebody else


Enjoy this song :D